Being supportive is often difficult—especially when you’re super close to the situation. Today, we address someone’s concern on how to sufficiently support their spouse with a small business. Before we get down to it, we would just like to say how we love this trend! We have been getting quite a few requests for discourse topics.
Today’s article is one such example. We got this letter in the mail and we’ll be answering here, just like she wants. We’ve also obtained her permission to share her concern. We’ll just be changing important information for security reasons. Now, let’s get to it!
Dear Project Enterprise,
I really love your articles about supporting local businesses and I really wanted to send this in. My husband and I have been married for five years and he got it into his head that he wanted to start his own pool cleaning firm.
I suppose he’s good at it—it’s been sort of a dream of his since he was younger. I want to be supportive but I think he’s putting our finances at risk by leaving his 9-5. It also does not help that since he made up his mind to start the business, he’s rarely still for more than 10 minutes altogether!
Please let me know how I can support him and still express my concerns in a way that won’t belittle his efforts or suggest that I’d rather not risk opening a business right now.
Hello there, J!
First off, we truly love that you follow this site and our articles. We do what we do because of courageous people like your husband and well-meaning people like yourself. We say courageous because the economy is quite tenuous and you are right to be concerned about what will happen to your finances.
We thought about how you could support your husband and here are a few ways:
Life is all about change. While we cannot control what other people want to do with their efforts, you can control how you react to it. If you are concerned about the state of your finances, you can be pretty darn sure that your husband thinks about that all the time. That is also why he probably cannot sit still.
When we say be flexible, we hope that you’ll be prepared to take on a lot of different roles. You will be his sounding board, his assistant at times, his secretary (especially since it’s just starting out), and so many other things. A small business can seem risky but if it is studied well before jumping into it, there’s a big chance of longevity.
Be Firm but Kind
Just because you do want to be supportive does not mean that you should be quiet about your reservations. Do let him know what is on your mind but do not attack him with it. Your concerns should never be a stick to beat your partner with. We suggest sitting down and talking things over calmly. More than likely, he is the best person in the world to allay any fears you may have about opening a small business.
Cheers and good luck!
Team Project Enterprise